Ask Alice

My ex and I broke up a while ago and the breakup was messy. We did not see each other all break but now we keep running into each other and it’s super awkward. How can I change this?

Sadly there is no way to stop running into them, unless you change your whole schedule so you can avoid your ex, but that seems like too much work and I doubt it is worth the effort. For all you know you might be the only one who finds these run-ins awkward. So the best advice I can give is just to stop caring because they are probably not worth it. Just own up to the runns. I’m not saying that you need to talk to them or even acknowledge their existence. Just continue on with your day. Sure this may not be easy at first especially if you still have feelings for them, but it gets easier and maybe while your ignore them someone could be noticing you.There really is no other way to avoid your ex unless you have a long distance relationship, but that can lead to a whole other set of problems.

This semester I seem to be having a lot of trouble getting good marks in most of my classes.It’s not like I’m not studying, it just does not seem to be helping. What can I do so I do not end up failing ?

The obvious answer is staying on top of your school work, actually studying and not procrastinating or cramming for an exam. However, tutoring is always an option. Luckily you attend an amazing school that offers tutoring services. Sure you may need to pay but in the long run it will pay off. How can you really compare a few dollars for that degree you will receive, because you did amazing on your exam. But maybe you have already tried tutoring and it does not really help. Don’t freak out, it could just be that you and your tutor were not a good match. You can always try out study groups as well. It’s a great way to get to know your fellow classmates, maybe even make new friends and it’s also a cheaper way of studying. Not to mention, there is a very good chance that you are not the only one struggling in the class. School tutoring services are available at the Academic Center. They have regular workshops and peer-tutoring in H-117, L-023 and the Writing Center. Some departments have their own centers and you can always go to your teacher’s office hours.

Alice
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