Ask Alice

My best friend and I have known each other for a long time. We do everything together and tell each other all our secrets. The thing is that I have been having feelings for her, like I want to kiss her and be more than just friends. I am a girl and I am afraid that if I tell her, she becomes distanced or will stop being there for me. What should I do?

Be honest. It is really the only thing you can do. It’s unfair for you to keep these feelings to yourself and always wonder “what if”. So just take the chance, tell her how you truly feel and make sure you do it in person. Be aware that she may need some time to process what you have just told her so don’t try and push her to tell you how she is feeling, even if she feels the same way. Give her some time to think.

In the end it could go two ways: she can tell you that she feels the same way and you can both run off and live happily ever after, or she doesn’t, in which case your friendship may get a little awkward and maybe even grow a little distant for a while. But if you guys truly are best friends then at one point everything will return to normal. Who knows? You could have just gotten yourself an amazing new wingwoman.

How can I balance work and school at the same time? It is so stressful to get good marks and still make some money.

It’s not easy, but it is possible. The trick is knowing how to manage your time; a full time student shouldn’t be working more than 20 hours a week. So, if you are doing more, maybe talk to your manager for a reduced work schedule.

Also make sure to organize your time, when it comes to studying and doing assignments. Don’t wait until the last minute! If that means not meeting up with your friends at Annie’s, then so be it. Sure, you want to have fun at Cegep, but if you are really concerned about balancing work and school then your social life might have to go on the back burner for a while.

Alice
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